This is important stuff that all women need to know. As young as possible! I asked Sarah Chann to write about how our cycles affect our confidence because this stuff is GOLD in unlocking how we should be operating our lives. Instead of forcing ourselves to be constantly on the go, to allow for those days of the month when we need to honour ourselves and go a bit slower. Connecting to this inner wisdom that has long been forgotten, will help us rise up stronger than ever before. This is an important key to unlocking how as women, we live our lives. Getting rid of the shame around having a period for a start, and then embracing that we have hormones, and they play a big part for us as women. I have been keeping a diary for a few months now to see how my moods are each day. I am hoping to see a pattern that I can work with, instead of fight against, going forward. Comment below if you have taken note of your moods before over the course of a few months. What did you notice? If you haven't, would you consider giving it a go? Bex xx
You wake up in the morning, leap out of bed, and as you get dressed you can’t help sending yourself admiring glances in the mirror. Damn you look good today! You head out the door with a jaunt in your step, ready to do your thing and totally rock the day.
Yet a mere week later, you have to drag yourself out of bed and you can barely stand the sight of yourself in the mirror. You fuel yourself with coffee and chocolate but there is no jaunty step, no sly wink to yourself in the mirror. You head into the day with a slight feeling of despair dragging at you, along with a healthy dose of feeling like there is something wrong with you. Where has your confidence gone? Why can’t you feel on top of the world every day?
The simple answer: blame your hormones. Although I’m hoping you’ll see it’s really a matter of embracing your hormones and working with them.
You see, as you cycle through each month, your hormones rise and fall, catalysing physical functions in your body, such as ovulation and your monthly bleed, but also, importantly, impacting your confidence, emotions, and energy too. Once you understand what happens over the month then you can work WITH your body and how it makes you feel as opposed to trying to fight it or, worse yet, blaming yourself for feeling so lacking.
From the day your period finishes, through to ovulation, you will generally experience increasing confidence – in your looks and abilities. This will peak at ovulation when you can be feeling like you’re the hottest fox in town. It is during this phase that your estrogen is steadily increasing, which also results in an increase in serotonin, the chemical that gives you feelings of happiness and well being. During ovulation your estrogen and testosterone peak – it’s definitely time to make the most of the natural confidence, extroversion, and optimism you are feeling, especially because they quickly drop off, leaving you feeling a little less amazing than you did before.
Now is the time to: ⦁ have important conversations because it is your most articulate time of the month ⦁ enjoy socialising ⦁ engage in some productive teamwork ⦁ let your creative juices flow and follow their impulse
Heading into your luteal phase (between ovulation and your period), you can feel your energies start to turn inwards. Your estrogen and testosterone are at their lowest levels. The drop in testosterone results in a drop in your natural confidence and you might find yourself experiencing increasing self-doubt. The drop in estrogen impacts your serotonin levels, resulting in an increase in anxiety, nervousness, and “the blues”. However, it’s not all bad, as the release of progesterone into your system helps calm the nervous system and promotes relaxation and sleep. Just before your period, your progesterone drops sharply, which can result in weepiness. Finally, during menstruation your estrogen and testosterone start to slowly increase, starting the cycle all over again.
Your luteal phase is a good time to: ⦁ set really clear boundaries and ask for help if you need it ⦁ problem solve – you have extra good attention to detail ⦁ plan and execute – it’s a great time for meal planning or housework because your energy is very focused
During menstruation, your intuition is heightened so it’s a great time to try and rest quietly and listen to what your inner voice has to say.
The most important thing is for you to start tracking your own levels of confidence and energy over the course of a month. Then you can learn what is normal for YOU! As you note down your own normal, then you can start to work with it. Track the days when your confidence is peaking and really allow yourself to rock it so during the times when your hormones cause an increase in self-doubt you know that it too will pass and soon you’ll be back out there, doing your thing, and having a grand old time.
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